Double Standards

Continuing the conversation on Women Fall in Love Using Logic.

There’s a double standard I’ve observed. A change in sentiment between the sexes for the same thing.

Being Process AND Goal oriented.

If a man operates with both we don’t bat an eye. If a woman implores the same approach, we have a lot more to say and labels to give.

Here is a quick review on this concept in modern dating:

To sum it up, if someone is process oriented they place more value on the experience. If someone is outcome oriented they place more value on the result.

Here is a visual for how this applies in the fitness space:

When it comes to connecting with the sexes I believe both aspects are required for a healthy connection. You are aware of your own intentions (outcome) and are able to enjoy and incorporate your partner’s (process).

The interpretation of the sexes being both process and goal oriented result in polarizing opinions. This is where I see the split.

• The underlying tone of a woman with a goal of marriage, security or commitment (outcome) who uses femininity (process) to achieve her goal is distaste. The interpretation is manipulation.

• If a man has a goal of sex, connection, emotional intimacy (outcome) and uses romance (process) to achieve his goal it’s a man being a man.

In today’s paid episode I discuss this dichotomy and my thoughts around this. Time stamps below for an overview.

Thanks again for your support, readership and choosing to join in on the conversation.

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

0:41 - Women & Logic

1:57 - Process vs Goal Oriented

9:30 - Using Logic Means No Morals?

12:20 - Today's Dating Content Reflects Battle Strategy

16:35 - Love & Strategy - You Can Have Both

17:17 - Proving You're the Good Guy is Also Emotional Manipulation

22:09 - Break Up, Authorities, Restraining Orders

31:00 - Marrying Extremes

35:23 - What's Coming Next On The Conversationalist

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