What I covered:
Two friends reflecting on prior heart breaks and how it affected their vulnerability
One’s high school come up story as the modern day “Hero’s Journey” and how it’s affected intimacy with women
The second… the audio cut!! Apologies. He had similar parallels where he felt his romance was “used up” without reciprocation. Reflecting on the hesitancy of activating that part again.
How I am vulnerable and reading whether or not a man has opened his heart to me.
Admitting I want to show others, but don’t know how to explain it
I walk through the diagram I am creating. It is still in it’s rough draft:
Recognizing that both partners can be vulnerable, but that doesn’t equate to a perfect relationship, there are other components to reciprocity
Feedback on my diagram from a friend of mine, who kept thinking of exceptions for each of my scenarios…
Thinking back to my friends who are good men in different phases with different needs and desires
Recognizing this is tricky for women who see the good in men, hold onto it and make concessions for less than desirable qualities
Recalling another story from a friend of mine, his observation of when women get approached; some make you out to be the “bad guy” while others don’t blink an eye
What you’re offered is not a reflection of your value
My own experience with men who have the same desires as I do, but aren’t in a position to provide it
Putting in perspective that not everyone is trying to give “low ball” offers
Importance of women being discerning about selecting partners and recognizing who the man is, what position he is in, and if it matches her desire
Reminder to myself, men are sensitive
More times than not, there is a good man sitting across from you
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