I have created a new set of feminine archetypes. My hope is to expand a woman’s range and deepen our relationship with her spiritually and emotionally.
Ladies and Gentlemen, I introduce…
The Femme Fatale.
Over the next two months we will be discussing these 7 feminine archetypes. An exploration on how she simultaneously evokes pain and pleasure.
You might be thinking: What separates one from the other?
A simple but earth shattering realization.
Each archetype represents one of the 7 Deadly Sins.
The most potent aspect of my body of work:
The woman is both the poison and the remedy.
She has the power to:
exacerbate pain or soothe it with pleasure
nurture discomfort or assure it with ease
strategize a man’s demise or his promote his ascent
Women are here to embody the duality of each sin. To feel it, taste it, become the temptation. And to find the sweet spot of consumption; to not be consumed by the man or have the energy overtake her.
A tight rope walk. Risky. Crazy. Perilous.
But once centered: Marvelous, Incredible, Awe-inspiring.
After all. Attraction doesn’t exist without a little tension.
A thesis:
The Femme Fatale is a spiritual embodiment designed to harmonize the sexes by recognizing pain and embodying pleasure to facilitate a man’s ascension.
I will illustrate how 7 women express themselves as the delectable cardinal desires of the 7 Deadly Sins. We will use this framework to examine the depth men and women are meant to reach. It will also clarify why the sexes indulge in distractions creating more distance instead of intimacy.
It’s robust, complex, sexy, spiritual.
It’s a sticky web few are willing to untangle.
It’s certainly a conversation worth having.
Before we meet the ladies, let’s discuss the power and frame work of the Femme Fatale.
Two Conversations
I watched a live by Amber Khan where she explained that Marilyn Monroe was having two conversations on screen. The first was the script she memorized along with her co-star. The second was an unspoken dialogue beneath the words. A subconscious parley between the sexes. The man was completely taken by the woman who was Marilyn Monroe.
Femme Fatales are conscious of both conversations. Even though it doesn’t feel like it to the masculine… she controls the narrative. The Femme Fatale knows how to speak to the man with nonverbal cues. This knowledge is commonly known as polarity. The “script” or archetype is reading the consciousness of the man, and striking up a conversation with his personality.
The Femme Fatale understands the subtleties and (usually) a lover of double entendre. She is always having two conversations at the same time.
Mindset
The appeal of every Femme Fatale is her confidence. The sweet, thick self assurance pouring out of her like honey. This intoxicating presence is a reflection of her mindset.
She wins not matter what. It’s not a question if her desires are fulfilled, simply when they come to fruition.
Reflecting every spiritual teaching I find the Femme Fatale is not attached to the how, but she’s clear on the vision. The woman is adaptable, recognizes opportunity and observes closely. All with a nonchalant attitude and casual posture that transmits indifference and fearlessness.
It’s comparable to an entrepreneurial spirit, athlete’s focus or corporate culture. But as soon as we see this caliber of conviction with high heels and lipstick, we swallow it like a kid with a spoonful of medicine. Furthermore, if the strategies implored to win are feminine in nature: charm, beauty, sweet talk, relaxation… suspicions rise and tension sets in like the fur raised on an animal’s back. Unless you’re on the receiving end of the charm, then it feels like your lucky day.
Regardless of soceity’s peanut gallery shouting opinions from the cheap seats, she knows what she’s destined for. She’s not afraid to interact with opportunity because she knows who she is. And winners win.
Dazzling
In the words of Ayesha K Faines “Dazzling Disarms”. I’ve echoed this teaching by explaining women are meant to be a sensory experience. She appeals to the five senses. She looks stunning. Smells good. Soft with her touch. Voice sounds melodic. And if you’re lucky enough you’ll get a taste.
This is potent and quite impactful to men and women alike. But underneath the accoutrement, the energetic exchange feels so good it’s hard for a man to put his finger on. The Femme Fatale knows it’s not what she does or even who she is, but with the wisdom of Maya Angelou; it’s knowing how to make a man feel.
One of the biggest scams of modern femininity is putting women in their head. Strategizing mental debates, instructions online, keeping a running checklist of who’s done what or what she needs. Dumbfounded she’s not having the effect she wants, she doesn’t realize men are mirroring her defenses. They both stay in the mental plane.
A woman’s true power is dropping into her body to receive wisdom from a place of knowing. Not google research, YouTube tutorials or TikTok checklists. Women’s bodies and beauty practices have been policed because men know how intoxicating her presence is when paired with her choice of adornment. Dazzling with charm and beauty puts men in a hypnotic states. A low toned whisper, intimate eye contact and a sway in her walk… Deadly combination.
Any sight of beauty can transport you from your head to your heart in total presence and deep awareness. Everything pauses. As Eckhart Tolle would verify, it’s the power of now. A little shimmer and bangle acoustics can transport a guarded, machismo hard ass to a state of being where life has meaning and everything glimmers. What’s the catch you may ask…? His ego has to die.
Standards
One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned from my mother:
“No” is a complete sentence.
No need for explanation, elaboration or apologies. The answer is No. And if you feel the need to soften the landing, take Mina Irfan’s phrase “That doesn’t work for me.”
I’ve discovered there is an art of denial. Tone is big component, which is reflected by frequency. Your standard is clear in the energetic frequency. The secret is to say no with an open heart. This No does several things. It keeps an air of pleasure and opportunity while holding standards high. It also maintains the winner mindset. The Femme Fatale knows what she’s looking for. She doesn’t shut down energetically based on a man’s denial. If it’s not him, it’s someone else. An open heart allows her to receive her desire from God and redirect the path as she needs.
She also understands the Hero’s Journey of the subconscious. The masculine in us all loves a redemption story. One is not possible without overcoming an obstacle (or challenging a No).
There are No’s that have the weight of the world behind them. There are No’s that say “You know better. Try again.” There are even No’s with a wink that says “Not right now”.
The Femme Fatale understands a “No” tends to be more reactionary, defensive even. It usually has wiggle room to finesse a Yes. Not to betray his no, but to ascend what he believes is possible for her and even himself.
Mystery
The Femme Fatale’s most vital attribute is embracing every spiritual reckoning: mystery. This topic alone I could lecture on for semesters on end. I have more details on my series Women as the Life Force. For now I’d like to clarify a massive misinterpretation I see online.
Mystery has become synonymous with emotional unavailability. Mystery is not about ghosting, playing hot & cold or disorienting the other party. Confusion is not mystery.
Mystery in it’s true essence incites curiosity. Curiosity is energizing, not demoralizing. It ignites inspiration to discover more. This prompts a man to explore her inner thoughts, personal history or the body beneath the clothes.
Mystery is the seed women plant men are welcome to water. He tends to the possibility of connection and puts his best foot forward to nurture the opportunity. If he wants to enjoy the fruits of his labor, he has to stick to the process, adapt to changing weather and consistently tend and care for the metaphysical garden.
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